How To Understand Women

Lets be totally honest here, if I knew the secret formula that made men understand the goings on in a woman's head I would gain overnight fame and fortune, my name would live on as one of the greatest men in history, I would probably even win an award or two including the Nobel Prize for science and the Nobel Peace prize.

I would be a legend in my own lifetime, revered by men everywhere I went.

Alas I am just a married man with a little life experience who has learned to read the signs the hard way, through trial and error, I don't know it all and I never will, what goes on in a woman's head is a mystery to all mankind and it probably will remain that way until the end of time.

Before we can even begin to learn about what makes a woman tick we have to learn a little bit about ourselves, as the biggest mistakes we make about women come from our own perception of ourselves.

Big Mistake (1)

The male of the human species have an inbuilt ego booster that from an early age tells them to believe that every female that they encounter in their lifetime, outside of family. Has the Hot's for them, they are irresistible to women and that they can have any woman that they want at the click of their fingers.

The Truth

Women like men, have differing tastes they, contrary to popular belief, don't chase after anything in pants, they may like your smile, your eyes or even your butt or they may not like a single thing about you.

Big Mistake (2)

Men are bad at reading the signs and it can lead to a lot of confusion when it comes to dealing with the opposite sex, body language is not our strong point and sometimes it causes us to make complete and utter fools of ourselves.

The Truth

Admit it guys we have all been there at some point, a girl has looked at us and we have fallen into the trap, "she wants me" is our first thought and if she actually happens to say hello we automatically think that she wants to jump into bed with us.

The plain truth is that the woman in question has noticed you staring at her for the last ten minutes and has glanced back at you thinking to herself "why is that creep staring at me".

If she does approach you and says hello, it usually means that she might be interested in you but would like to get to know a little bit more about you, it does not mean that she wants to jump into your bed.

Big Mistake (3)

Men often get the wrong idea of what a girl wants because of the way that she dresses.

The truth

A woman is allowed to dress any way she pleases, if she is wearing a skin tight top with a plunging neckline and a short skirt with stockings and high-heeled shoes, It is her choice, it is not an open invitation for us to jump on her bones for a night of lust and passion.

Big Mistake (4)

Men are under the assumption that because you buy a woman flowers and chocolates, take her for a meal and a few drinks that she will sleep with you at the end of the night, they feel that because they have treated the woman to a good night out they deserve a reward at the end of it.

The Truth

Women go on a date to get to know you better, they want to learn more about you and find out what makes you tick, they want to find out if there could be a future with you.

You may get a kiss on the cheek at the end of the date or even a full blown Frenchie, but it will not be until later in the relationship when she is sure that you could be the real deal that you will reap the rewards of your patience.

Remember men the old saying "to assume makes an ASS of U and ME".

Big Mistake (5)

Men like to embellish the truth a little, telling little lies to try to impress the girl, lies like saying that they are the manager where they work when they in reality are only a labourer on the work floor and saying that they earn 3 times more than they actually do.

The Truth

Unless you are only looking for a one night stand, your lies will be caught out as the relationship deepens, honesty is the best policy when considering entering into a full blown relationship, because your lies could come back to haunt you when you lose the best thing that ever happened to you through them.

From learning about ourselves first we can then go on to learn about women, the above are just a few examples of mistakes that we as men make, the list could go on forever but most of the things that we learn about women is from life experience and common sense.

The real truth about women is that they are human beings just like we men are, they love, they hate, they laugh, they cry, they talk, they listen they have feelings, women are not toys or play things to be used and abused, they are our equal in every way, what we as males fail to do is respect women for who they are not what they look like and the most important thing that we men need to get through our heads is that when a woman says no she means No.

When we learn to respect women the world is our oyster.