How to get a girlfriend

Girls, one day they are icky and smelly and you are scared to go near them incase you get cooties, the next day you find that you can't help but look at them, wanting to get closer to them and get to know them.

Every boy goes through the same process as they become more mature, it is all a part of growing up and becoming a man.

I remember those days well even if it was a very long time ago.

Susan and I lived next door to each other all of our lives, we played together, walked to school together, laughed and joked with each other in-fact we were the best of friends.

Things began to change between us, I think we were both 12 years old at the time, and puberty was kicking in, my hormones were all over the place and I began to see Susan as a girl more than just a friend.

It was funny now that I think back to those times, one day we were playing games and having fun in the back garden of her house, the next day I could barely talk to her without blushing nervously and spluttering words out that made no sense what so ever.

Susan and I did eventually go out as a couple it lasted for a few months until we both realised that we were better as friends, we are still very close friends to this day.

Puberty is a difficult time for everyone, major changes are occurring in our bodies and our hormones are running wild to try and cope with all of the changes, it is during puberty that we begin to notice girls in a different light.

It really is not surprising that our self confidence takes a massive plunge at this time of our lives with everything that is going on in our minds and bodies, things were much easier when girls were icky and spreading girl cooties.

The main problem is that with all of these things going on inside us and the different thoughts we are having about girls is that we don't really understand what is happening and because we don't understand we become afraid of ourselves and our self confidence takes a massive plunge.

Talking to girls, especially girls that we like becomes one of the hardest things in the world to us, we stammer, we blush, we say stupid things that make absolutely no sense and we get so scared sometimes that we even freeze up and forget to speak at all.

Finding the confidence to speak to girls can for some people take years but most boys do quite quickly gain enough confidence to speak to girls when they realise that girls are going through similar emotions their bodies are going through the same changes and their hormone levels are going through the roof too.

Girls are human too and the quicker that we learn this the quicker we can get over the confidence problems after all we still talk to our male friends with the same confidence that we always had, we talk to our mom, our sister, our female teachers, our aunts and female cousins on a daily basis without any problems why should talking to a girl that we like be any different.

The main point is that if you lack the confidence to ask a girl to to go out with you then you are probably not yet ready in yourself for that kind of relationship.

When you have gained enough confidence to talk to the girl that you have had your eye on you need to be aware that when you ask her to go out with you you may find that she says no.

We all fear being rejected and no matter how much we prepare ourselves sometimes the girl you like will not have the same feelings for you.

If a girl you did not like asked you to go out with her how would you react? you have to see it from both points of view.

That girl that you rejected went through similar emotions to you before she plucked up the courage to ask you out.

Rejection hurts but there are plenty of other girls out there to catch your eye, when you fall of a bike it hurts but that doesn't stop you getting straight on that bike and cycling along like nothing happened.

If you can't accept a girl saying no to you it may be a sign that you were not ready to enter into a relationship in the first place.

After asking your girl out and she says yes then keep it real, be honest with her, lies tend to have a way of being found out.

Be attentive to her, listen to what she has to say and respond with interest and understanding.

Don't try to show off or be someone you are not, just be yourself, after all it was the real you she said yes to in the first place.

Don't Be too pushy you cannot force a girl to like you no matter how hard that you try.

Don't be a Clingon, girls need some space and time alone you can't expect her to be there with you 24/7. (if a girl needs to go to the rest room you don't have to follow her and wait outside the door.

Most importantly do not force her to do anything that she does not want to do, if a girl says no to a kiss or anything more than that, then no means no and you must respect her wishes in every way.

After your first date do not forget to ask her if she would like to go out with you again soon no point in leaving you both wondering if you liked each other enough to see each other again.